I have to say, the book was pretty funny. Steve Harvey has a refreshing voice that kept this how-to book very light and easy to get through (you know how some can drone on and on and you really just want the magic tool--well, there is no magic tool but you get my drift).
First he lays down the
He also explores the two categories men label women: "sports fish" and "keepers." You can guess what they mean. He tackles 'mama's boys' and why men cheat. He also offers some behavioral tips for women that will keep a man interested and send the losers packing.
One thing that I've always said about men is that they need to have a plan. If they don't have a life plan, what are they doing? Remember "I coulda been a contenda. I coulda been somebody. Instead, I'm just a bum." Yup, that's right. A man with no goals, one who is just dreaming without actually doing something, is a bum. Steve is all for women asking a man up front about his short and long term goals, what his views are on relationships, etc. because why waste time with someone who isn't able to give you his time (after he's done with his laser-like focus on his career, aka--he's established)and support? True, many men change careers nowadays, but someone who doesn't have a plan is just a scrub (click this song for cultural reference).
The one drawback is Steve writes as if he approves of women giving away the "cookie." I shouldn't have to explain that term. He claims to be a Christian, and I understand that I belong to an exclusive club that doesn't believe in sex before marriage, that plenty of people think it's 'okay' to sleep with their partner as long as they're 'in love,' but I don't think Steve has marketed this book as an exclusive Christian book. He mentioned many times that people should pray about their relationship, and that God has a role and should be first in one's life. Anyway, he says wait 90 days to see if the guy will hang around; a guy who just wants the "cookie" and nothing else will not stick it out for a never-ending 90-day stretch.
Overall, I enjoyed reading his perspective. I've had many a conversation with girls about a man's mindset and frankly, a lot of women don't believe what he says we should do. Be upfront about what you want, ask him what he wants...I think girls today are afraid to say anything because they think they will scare the guy away (believe me, getting a Christian man to ask a woman out these days is a rarity, but that's another post). Women also don't believe that a man views his worth differently than women do and that men express love differently. This book is worth the read for its humor alone, and if you need a refresher on understanding a man's perspective.